Reply to Tiffany wk 6

Jason said...
I know that episode by heart cause i watch Fresh Prince every night on Nick at Night after George Lopez but thats beside the point. Society has made it clear that men are to protect their women and women are to feel safe around their man. Personally I love a girl who can kick ass, it is sexy sorry if that sounds pigheaded. A girl who can hold her own ground and is strong is a great positive. Also you have to remember it is a T.V. show not saying that Lisa can't beat up Will or defend herself be we all know that Will can be dramatic. Look at the episode where he was boxing that girl at the gym and she knocked him out. Everyone made fun of him and he had to go back to the gym and defend his manhood i guess and show everyone that he could take on a girl. I dont think all men are like that but i know alot of guys feel inferior because they are suppose to be the macho tough guy protecting their girl. But women are strong in the sense that when we are sick, you girls do a great job at taking care of us. SO we do it physically and you guys to it emotionally. Mentally we can meet in the middle.

Week 6: How are the kids?

In the 6 weeks that have passed in this class we have touched on many topics from Wood, Prof M, or shared in our own experiences. Whether it is our gender roles, sex, preference, etc. the one thing I have always wanted to know is, What happens to the children. We get so into ourselves or the way society may view us that we forget about our kids. When it comes to who should work and stay at home, many parents both work leaving the child to be raised by 50 cent and Paris Hilton. We are too occupied on filling our roles as male and female and not as fathers and mothers. Have we become that selfish of our own needs and wants that we forget about our little ones? Are we so worried about being generalized into our roles that we forget that one role that we get when that child is born? From back in week 1 discussing about the pregnant man, to our roles in the workplace, at home, etc, and even now with transgenered and is it ok to go from man to woman? Do we ever think about anyone else, perhaps not our children if we do not have one but our families and friends? I am asking alot of questions because I sometimes think that we have become too selfish in ourselves and jsut ignore everything else that goes on around us.

Reply to Terry's Post wk 6

Jason said...
I have a second job that is part time and on weekends we do birthday parties. Whether I am leading the party or working as a host, I always see the men discussing business, sports, money, and the women are together discussing their kids, house, vacations, and etc. as you mentioned. If when it comes to the parent child classes we offer, the men really rather not be in the class and i see more of the moms in the classes with their babies.When it comes to the younger crowd I see a mix. Boys do play with boys and girls play with girls but in the last three years that i have been around kids 24/7 i see the two mixing alot more. I see my kindergarden boys and girls playing and running together, I see my middle school students doing much of the same. When i was growing up I always hung out with the guys and it wasnt until I got older I started having more girl friends and thats when i realized this gender socialization is boring. Now I have a great mix of male and female friends and i actually hang out with my female friends more, even when i was younger i liked hanging out with the ladies..lol. Whether formal gatherings or social events, the younger kids are starting to interact more with each other but the old school parents are still living up to their roles of the men drink, talk, and play while the women talk, cook, and clean.

Business Post wk 5: Father's Day Delight

And so comes another year where we celebrate the Father's who have stood by their families, full filled the role of a man, and showed us that men can be nurturing as well as strong. Father's Day is coming and just like Mother's Day, we celebrate those who have surpassed their gender role and taken on more than just being a Mother or Father. They have become friends to their children, best friends with their spouses, and even flip flopped their roles from man to woman. My question is can we celebrate Mother's Day if we are Men, and Father's Day if we are Women? There are many single parents out their who play both roles. Even our aunts, uncles, and grandparents take on these roles. It doesn' stop there because we have that extend relative or family friend who takes care of us like our mom's and dad's. Prof M talked about this in our first week about Mother's day in regards to the woman who takes care of her daughter. So many people have different roles and I am sure have been a big part of our lives growing up. They may not have had the title of mother or father but they gave us the values, love, and encouragement like they were our parents.

I grew up with no father and at times I felt like I barely had a mother. I had my aunt and grandmother as my support system. They taught me the morals and values needed to grow up. Even though growing up was rocky and even now as a 25 year old I know I have much to learn. On sunday as we celebrate having Father's what defines a father? Is it being a provider for your family? Is it being that friend, companion, and role model? Can someone be a father without being biologically linked to the child? What defines a father or "being a Man". Is it not leaving your family? How about showing compassion or being nurturing?

Father is defined as a male parent. A man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or provider. ( Provided from Dictionary.com)

The father is defined as the male parent of an offspring. The father-child relationship is the defining factor of the fatherhood role.[4][5] "Fathers who are able to develop into responsible parents are able to engender a number of significant benefits for themselves, their communities, and most importantly, their children." This information provided by Wikipedia.com

So how do we define father or being a man?

reply to Alex's blog wk 5

Not only have girl fights become something of a habit. You will also find in colleges hazing to be something that has grown more and more with girls. It use to be big with the boys and now has spilled with the girls hazing each other. Physically, emotionally, and socially. It is bad enough that the media and internet make it hard for girls self-esteam, girls do it to each other now and then later call themselves family or friends for that matter. Media and internet have done a poor job in showing the negative of this behavior and just show how cool or great this is. Everyone saw the video of the girls beating on that pour girl in that house. That video was played over and over again on the tv. It is amazing how we only know how to display the negative and never the positive.

reply to Charlene's post week 5

Jason said...
It is so hard sometimes to express love especially when you have had bad experiences with love. You begin to wonder does love even exist. Everyone wants to be love and loved a certain way but maybe that is our problem. Sure we all deserve to be treated well and taken care of but who is to say there is a right or wrong way to love some one or show it. I remember my last relationship and how I was told I needed to love this way and do this and do that. I never was allowed to love the way i knew how. Sure it wasnt perfect and then again none of us our. What makes us all unique and special is how we express that love whether its spiritual, physicaly, emotional, or whatever. Love is such a general term and it can be interept in some many ways. In the end love for me is communicating, respecting, just meeting in the middle. Like you said Charlene you know your husband and you knew his MO. That right there is love. Just knowing what your husband is thinking and wanting to communicate with you to me is a part of love. Just knowing what the other person is thinking as if your brains are on the same page. Also seeing that you guys have been together for 20 years still gives me hope in a society that sees people get divorced more than they go to the movies.

reply to Alex's post week 4

Jason said...
You have to look at this country as not sexist but racist. You mentioned Obama as a poster boy and because he is a male he has had an easier campaign. You have to keep an open mind that yes Clinton is the first woman to run for president but Obama is the first black man or woman running for president. Both are minorities when it comes to being commander and cheif. Obama also has religion as a second factor against him. In a time where if your religion is not Christian or Catholic you are tagged as being part of terriost actions. Obama has more to prove and now that he has become the democratic favorite how will this nation act towards a black leader. We have come a way towards racism but we have barely put a dent in our western civilization. Could Hilary have lead our country? I would say yes she could have. The question you ask about a womans point of view is not taken seriously is because woman have not been fighting as long as men have when it comes to war. In the 4,000 plus soldiers who have died and the millions before this war how many were woman fighting in action. Very few and I am not saying that this is the sole reason why a woman is not take seriously, but a woman has a soft side. Can a woman president truly say yes we can go to war? Look at how men and women interact with their kids. A woman is much softer and nurturing while the man is more rough and supportive. I think our nation is afraid of being babied by a woman. But then again that is the way our society thinks and Clinton could have easliy proved every one wrong. But to say we are a sexist nation you have to look at both sides and say are we really sexist or still Racist.